It is really simple to eliminate stuttering: learn to control your naturally correct speech – not your mistakes (stuttering)!
The majority of “stuttering management” methods displayed on internet today appear wishful thinking (best case scenario!) or deception (worse case scenario!). Providers of these stuttering programs simply make money of human’s misfortune. Most of these stuttering “experts” tell honestly that they do not know exactly what stuttering is, why people stutter and what precisely needs to be done to get rid of stuttering once and for all. They can only offer some artificial, bandage-like, exercises to manage stuttering. They teach people who stutter to hide their speech mistakes with various artificial techniques just like a person may hide his infected skin wound with a bandage. Expecting a stutterer to practice these unnatural techniques for a long time, they can never offer any guarantee of when or if his/her stuttering will ever be gone🙁 The reality is that no matter how much time and how many efforts you will invest in practicing any artificial speaking technique, you will never become a natural speaker.
Speech is a learned (at some point of our life!) action, which can be performed correctly (or not!) in the present moment only – not yesterday, not tomorrow or in some unknown future!
The following practical information is for you to sample the Etalon concept – the very first and only available in the world science-based Speech Education Program for the Elimination of Stuttering – 100% reliable solution to effectively, and permanently eliminate any speech imperfection.
Enjoy reading and putting into practice a few Etalon advice, but remember that this information may only help you realize that:
* your stuttering is a set of your incorrect speaking actions
* you can eliminate your stuttering forever by learning to speak correctly under the guidance of an Etalon instructor. This can be done in only three days of the Etalon Speech Education Course over Skype.
ETALON SPEECH RULES
BEWARE: The rules below are just a few examples of many simple NATURAL SPEECH NORMS that every normal speaker follows intuitively. By understanding and starting to follow these examples, you will noticeably improve the quality of your speech. You will realize that stuttering is not an inescapable and incurable illness, but a set of your own incorrect speech actions that you can substitute with the correct ones and normalize your speech, thinking and attention almost instantly. All you would need to do is to learn and begin to follow these and other NATURAL SPEECH NORMS.
1. 1. GAIN CONSCIOUS CONTROL OVER YOUR SPEECH.
“Speech is a conscious and voluntary action” ~ Academic Snezhko.
It is important to understand the difference between two processes: thinking and speaking. Human’s mind is powerful; it enables people to travel in time. Our imagination can make us think about the past as well as the future. On contrary, human’s speech can be produced in the present time only. In order to be able to speak out loud, we must clearly hear “the mental sound equivalent” of what we are going to produce. In other words, we should know what to say. Our mind is constantly busy thinking about various realities around us, having dialogs with somebody or conversing with ourselves. However, we do not voice out all of our thoughts. We vocalize only those mental sound equivalents that are appropriate to the present situation. It is our consciousness that is responsible for selecting the right sound equivalents from many other thought-words and making decisions to sound them out. The rest of thought-words are being ignored as inappropriate. Without conscious control over our speech, we would voice out all the thoughts without discrimination. This kind of unconscious vocalizing of information is called a useless chatter. It is unlikely that if we acted like this, we could be perceived by others as sane people. Therefore, re-gaining conscious control over the speech should become the primary goal for every person who stutters. Most of the stutterers produce a lot of words, which are irrelevant to the present situation. Their rapid speech production, use of numerous word-parasites, and many repetitions of the same information appear to carry a very limited amount of meaning. Why? Because a person who stutters attempts to talk about the subject in a “roundabout manner”. For example, in order to say, “Give me the pear”, a typical stutterer may pronounce the following: “So, let’s see… this… mmm…. like…here… pear… the …mmm…. give… mmm… me” This could be his way of trying to avoid the use of the sound /m/ and failing to find a substitute for the word “me”.
People who stutter are constantly in the process of attempting to avoid difficult words, sounds and substituting them by “easy” ones; however, such mental process requires time, which they do not have in speaking. As a result, when they begin to speak, a real chaos rises in their head and this chaos grows into panic (they rush to say it faster!), which turns into the paralyzing fear. This fear usually arrives together with the following dominating thought: “I will not be able to say anything right now… Everybody will notice that I am a stutterer… What a shame… It is always going to be like this… I am helpless… It is useless… No hope…” This hopeless thought is followed by the development of a real STUPOR and suppresses all other adequate for the present situation sound equivalents. That’s how a person’s attempt to “over-chatter” stupor by saying ‘easy words’ fails and adds even more ‘difficult words’ (which had been in the category of easy ones before!) to his/her belief of what’s ‘easy’ and what’s ‘difficult’ to pronounce.
Thoughts are totally subordinated by the Will and consciousness of humans and all the appropriate to the situation sound equivalents (adequate thoughts) cannot be suppressed by thoughts by stutterers themselves! They (not anybody else!) begin consciously looking for substitutions of their thoughts/words and it is their ridiculous decision that always brings the same failing result – stupor. The stupor caused by a “hopeless thought” is only a delayed result of the decision made earlier by people who stutter that “looking for an easy word does not help” at the moment when they should be talking about what they want to say without thinking about anything else.
The only way to get rid of a speech stupor is to produce speech consciously. For that, “taste” doing the following:
✔ Produce sequentially (sound-by-sound, syllable-by-syllable, word-by-word) everything that comes to your mind and is appropriate to the present situation only;
✔ “Form speech” in the same sequence that takes place in your mind at the present time – without additional thinking or prior “pronouncing” and “preparing” words and sentences;
✔ Express your present intentions clearly and briefly; ignore your bad habit of speaking in a “roundabout manner“;
✔ Selectively and consciously produce your “difficult” words that have been associated with the most emotions of fear, doubt, and anticipation of unsuccessful speech;
✔ Select speaking in “difficult” situations that you used to avoid at all cost;
✔ Select specifically and produce consciously “difficult” sounds. Otherwise, all your attempts to overcome your fears of speech will definitely fail. The fear could be conquered only by the direct and active contact with it.
2. SPEAK WITHOUT REPEATING.
Repetition is the main harmful habit of people who stutter. It is a foundation of the whole process of stuttering. Children copy this way of speaking after their parents, teachers, older siblings, and other role models. Most of the time, stutterers repeat sounds, syllables, words, phrases, and sometimes even sentences unconsciously. I urge you to drop this really bad habit.
– If you notice that you have already produced one sound (at the beginning of the word), do not repeat it again – no matter what;
– Do not attempt to produce the whole word at once, at one moment of the time. People cannot perform consciously more than one task at one moment. This is the natural rule. It is impossible to produce even two sounds at the same time. Only in a sequence. When a PWS attempts to say at once a whole word that consists of 4, 5 and more sounds, his failure is predicted in advance.
Every naturally speaking human produces each sound in every word in a sequence, never at once! Unfortunately, stutterers wrongly believe that they should “speak faster” and “speak like others”. Such belief about “simultaneousness of speech” pops up in their mind unconsciously and significantly damages their speech. Because of this attempt to say all sounds of the word momentarily (impossible task to accomplish!), a PWS unconsciously falls into STUPOR, which paralyzes his speech muscles. At this point, it would help if the PWS said to himself: “Stop! Only in a sequence!”, but nobody has ever taught him this simple conscious technique to eliminate the stupor immediately. The passionate desire to say everything at once and to overcome forcefully the spasm-stupor (task that is obviously predicted to fail!) excites a PWS, and he keeps trying to accomplish impossible mission again and again. Instead, he should have relaxed and continued producing the remaining in the word sounds in a sequence and without trying hard.
– Simply continue pronouncing the rest of the word beginning with the next sound or syllable. Here is an example of correct sequential production of sounds and syllables in words: “mo…ther”, “p…ray”, “s…tamp”. A PWS may produce these words like this: “m…m…m…mother”, “p…p…p…pray” and “s…s…s…stamp” instead. See the difference?
– Produce speech sequentially – sound by sound, syllable by syllable, word by word, sentence by sentence. The skill of sequential speaking appears automatic and unconscious for normally speaking people. Normal speakers feel as they speak momentarily. This is not true. After many attempts to perform an impossible (to say a whole word at once), a PWH is finally able to ‘shot’ it out – at the moment when he produces this word sequentially by accident, unconsciously.
– At the end of the word make a brief pause in order to separate words from each other.
– Emphasize your attention primary on the sounds that are “difficult” to produce. Do not do it with your voice (do not say it louder), but with your conscious ATTENTION. Realize that the sound has already been pronounced out loud and does not need to be said again. Then, after noting that, produce the rest of the word – whatever has not been pronounced yet.
– A stutterer should stop fighting the speech stupor. By forcing his speech out he ignores the natural speech rule and makes the stupor even more severe. Instead, he should close his mouth right after the first sound has been said and continue pronouncing the remaining sounds and syllables in the word in the appropriate sequence and without repetitions.
– The following experiment proves the correctness of the method. A PWS will never stutter if he pronounces as long as he wants alphabet sounds (not letters’ names!) because it’s impossible to stutter in producing separate sounds, one-by-one in a sequence: /
… z/. Even the most severe stutterer will not stutter. This exercise, called the “Sound Matrix”, is especially useful for those PWS who strongly believe in existence of their ‘difficult’ sounds that always make them stutter. PWS may pronounce their ‘difficult’ sounds as many times as they want and never stumble on them.
– Understand the difference between letters and sounds. Many adults do not understand this significant difference, which causes a lot of confusion in speaking and reading. Sound is a vibration created in you body by your consciousness. Letter is a drawing, symbol that indicates a sound. Human’s speech consists of sounds only and never letters. Most of letter’s names do not match associated with them sounds. This triggers the confusion, which often causes stupors in reading. Here are a few examples: one letter “I” labels two sounds -/
ʌ/ and /j/- (listen carefully and realize the difference); there are two sounds – /
æ/ and /n/ – in the name of the letter “n”(which reads as one sound); letter “t” is associated with one sound – /t/-, but there two sounds -/t’/and /
i:/ in its label. This miss-match between letters and sounds may cause confusion and stupors in reading.
3. KNOW WHAT TO SAY PRIOR TO OPENING YOUR MOUTH. (Hear and then, speak; never listen while speaking).
Why does a stutterer fail to produce a normal speech flow even though he is certain of what he wants to say? Why does a student who stutterers cannot answer a question about his homework assignment, which he completed last night? A stutterer believes that the information he possesses is ready to be shared with the audience, he opens his mouth and…. cannot say anything substantial, but unintelligible separate sounds and unrelated word-parasites, such as: “Uhm… this… w… let’s see… I think… uhm…”
Let’s investigate what happens when someone asks you a question about something. Your first reaction is the following thought: “I am a stutterer!” This is strange – the question was not about that! Your second thought: “I should answer as soon as possible!” Third: “Ok. Let’s get myself together, say everything quickly and precisely! Wow, he is already staring at me suspiciously …” Forth: “No. I will not make it…” Fifth: “Oh well, what ever will be will be” Sixth: “I am starting to speak right now!” All of these thoughts are totally irrelevant to the question; they are called “thought-parasites”. Without clear realization of the presence of such a flow of thoughts in his head, the stutterer opens his mouth in attempt to answer the question: “Uhm… this…w… I think…Uhm…” Prior to their production, these meaningless vocalizations have to be “heard” in your mind; this hinders “hearing” of the relevant information necessary for answering the question. Most of the time, only after opening his mouth and turning speech muscles on, a person who stutters begins to think about what actually the question was. However, because it is impossible to perform more than one action at one moment (here: speaking and thinking), the stutterer begins to speak “NOTHING”, which he attempts to fill with his out loud “mooing” or non-stop repetitions of “word-parasites”. Because sound equivalents of these meaningless vocalizations unconsciously take up almost all the thinking space in his head, they do not leave any room for relevant to the question thoughts. So, the stutterer is trying to execute two actions simultaneously: forcing out his speech about “nothing” and thinking about what to say. Beginning to think and speak at the same time – an impossible mission – is a habit presented in all stutterers. The result is stupor, which is always triggered by “simultaneousness” and lack of sequence.
What is the solution? Do not force it, do not fight your stupor by tightening your body muscles, and do not open your mouth until you “hear” the answer to the question in your mind. Only after that, open your mouth and begin produce speech in a sequential order. Here is what you should do when somebody asks you a question:
– Estimate your feelings, emotions, and intentions that you would like to talk about (your communication partner, conversational topic, or your environment);
– Select appropriate to those feelings, emotions and intentions words (sound equivalents) from your vocabulary (auditory memory);
– Hear these words and, then, pronounce them in your mind in a sequence that you prefer; this should be performed at the beginning stage of the study course (when your vocabulary is limited and your immediate memory recall is no more than 1 word);
– Now, you can open your mouth and begin to produce speech sequentially and without repetitions: sound-by-sound, syllable-by-syllable, and word-by-word. You should turn a sound image that you have on your mind into a real sound that is heard by ears. While producing your sequential speech, pay close attention to each sound pronounced at the present moment. (When your attention is totally focused on your speech, then, no other thoughts will destruct you until you finish pronunciation of the last sound. Also, your attention will help you realize that the sound has been already produced and you will avoid its repetition). Your consciousness should be totally focused on the process of production of one speech sound at one moment. Once the sound has been said, you should immediately “forget” about it and switch your attention to the next one. Sounds produced sequentially form syllables; syllables form words; and words form sentences. As the result, your speech becomes naturally-normal without any effort on your part (without any thinking!). After saying in such fashion a word (up to 3 words – at the mastery level of speech skill development!), pause – so you could think of and select the next thought-word to say. And so on.
4. SAY EACH MEANINGFUL SEGMENT OF INFORMATION (WORD) SEPARATELY AND SEQUENTIALLY
Present time is one moment only. It cannot fit in more than one sound. An attempt to produce even two sounds in one moment will cause a stupor. The natural law of sequence states: one can begin performing the next action only after he has brought to the end the action that he previously started.
5. PRONOUNCE NOT MORE THAN 60 WORDS PER MINUTE
Every speech muscle movement requires time. Do not steal it from yourself. Never say more than one word per second. Quit running madly in speech. WALK! Do not avoid pauses between words. Pauses are golden. They provide you with the sufficient time for your “inside speech”. Keep in mind that some words could be longer then others. For example, compare a one-syllable English word “work” with the length of same word in different languages: “work” (English: 1 syllable) = “työskennellä” (Finnish: 5 syllables?)= “работа” (Russian: 3 syllables). Therefore, depending on their length, the number of the words produced in 1 minute may be slightly lower or higher. But normal speakers never attempt to say more than ONE WHOLE WORD in one moment.
6. DEVELOP YOUR VOCABULARY ON THE BASIS OF ONE MEANINGFUL WHOLE WORD. LEARN TO SAY CORRECTLY EVERY WORD AS ONE COMPLETE SEQUENCE OF SOUNDS
You may know how to write correctly a lot of words and can easily write them in any situation and any time. In order to be able to say correctly these same words anywhere and any time, you must learn how to pronounce all sounds in each of them – from the first sound to the last one. The Etalon natural rule is logical: one must know how to say correctly every whole word that he/she knows how to spell in writing!
These are some basic natural speech norms. However, just as different people make unlimited types of mistakes when they write, so they make various types of mistakes when they speak. To learn precisely what Non-correct Speech Action you perform in your speech and observe the demonstration of every natural Etalon Speech Action that you need to learn and substitute your incorrect one with, you need to enroll in the INDIVIDUAL or GROUP Etalon Speech Gymnastics and eliminate your irrational speech behavior once and for all
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